Looking a pregnant woman in the eyes
During a good prenatal visit, we get to the essence of life for that pregnant woman at that moment. That is the magic of looking a pregnant woman in the eye. I show women their cervixes with a mirror during pap smears. They look deep into her own insides, fascinating. When I look in the eyes of the pregnant woman during a prenatal visit I see her heart and she allows me to do so. I did not know where I was going when I looked into Nava's eyes. But soon she was telling me that her mother was ill. She has been in a nursing home for over a year. She has an incurable genetic disease. 'Does your mother know you are pregnant?" "No, I haven't seen her for a long time....... I can't see her. I get too anxious. I get too angry"
I did not probe to receive this intensely searing, disturbing information. I looked Nava in the eye. I know nothing of the complicated feelings swirling around inside of her. I do not need to know. But I know that it is no accident that seeing her heart, this is what I saw at this moment. She will take this painful opportunity and she will reconnect with her ill mother and she, her mother and her unborn baby will be the better for it. You have a beautiful heart Nava.